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Introduction

I would be looking for a woman after God's own heart. One who would have this relationship with Christ which would be noticed through action rather than description. Her heart and focus would reflect the love of God which is others interest first. All other good qualities of character will be self evident if this is primary in her life!

By God's grace I grow friendships that last a lifetime! Expressing confidence, understanding, and uplifting to be around. Providing balance of mutual love and respect which has God's love for mercy, doing what is just. I seek the foundation of true friendship in Christ first in relationships.

Furthermore, one has to be in a true daily conversion (dying to self) surrendering even their previous love idea to Christ. Much if not ALL of our previous idea of love & respect is rooted in some kind of prejudice or self therefore even the good has to be surrendered over to Christ.

I have come to realize everything such as communication, compassion, commitment, compromise (in preferences not principle) will hinge on a individuals DAILY CONVERSION IN CHRIST !
I have learned that one has to establish a core of true friendship by Christ alone. This is Christ in you reflecting such inexpressible comfort of belief and emotions making one feel safe in any friendship or relationship. In doing this, one will be able to guard that infatuation is not mistaken as love. Even though it has the emotional response you would not allow such foundation or marry on it alone. Should one follow the infatuation response, then only another high emotion will have to occur to out weigh the previous one. I have learned if there is chemistry between two, you always allow time for mature growth. Time is always the best indicator along with friendship.

In my opinion true love once matured has an intellectual basis, a deep, thorough knowledge of the person loved.

I like most casual settings such as being with friends, cookouts, family & church activities. I enjoy humor, expression and also listening. I enjoy exercise and some sports. Outdoors activities such as mountain trials, hiking, etc are a plus.

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Basic Information

GenderMale
LocationNorth GA, GA, USA
Age43

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About Me

Height5' 9" (175 cm)
BuildAthletic
HairDark Brown
EyesBrown
Relationship StatusSingle - never been married
Children0
Children home0
SmokingNever
DrinkingNever
Religious Involvementevery week
EducationBachelor's degree
Field of WorkPROFESSIONAL
EthnicityCaucasian / White, Hispanic / Latino
Languages SpokenEnglish

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Fun Facts

Self-descriptionPatience, listener, optimist, inspiring, communicative
MusicGospel/Religious Music
Favorite bands and musiciansChristian and Non-Fiction Book Audio
MovieDocumentary, Drama, Romance
Outdoor activityBasketball, Camping/Hiking/Fishing, Running, Sports/Athletics, Tennis
Indoor activityReading, Sports, Weightlifting
FoodItalian, Vegetarian/Vegan
PoliticsOpen Minded
TimelinessI am usually on time
As for fashionI dress to be comfortable

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Match Preferences

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Essays

What I'd like to do on a first date...

I would suggest that both pray and allow Holy Spirit to guide our first date. I believe once this is done, we will be within God's idea will.

My past relationships have taught me...

What I learned in past is relationships will never succeed unless Christ is truly at the center of them. I cannot emphasize enough that a true conversion will have to be continued daily (dying of self, surrender) in this area of relationships.
Speaking from experience many of us are guilty and have tried to control this area ourselves, apart from God. When this happens we lack the "trust" and will seek even without realizing a continual search for someone which many times is driven by other factors we are challenged with in our lives.

Finding our soul mate can be a good thing if God is allowed to direct & guide (control its process) for us. I have also learned that being single for long periods can cause us to lose sight in God's precious gift of a mate. Unless we are specifically called to be single for a purpose by God, we can drift into a world of loneliness and lack trust in God's idea purpose of marriage. I was called for specific time and season to be single which can be explained in a conversation. Let me conclude by saying God does allow or arrange for one to be single for long periods for reasons only known to them.

What I have learned about myself, & counseling others in past, is that most patterns for picking the wrong person are usually based on:

(1) To rush fill a love vacuum left by a parent. In many instances one does not realize this and has many deep hurts and unforgiveness in their heart.

(2) To try & fix a parent's fault by fixing a partner whose traits that resemble the parent's. This usually can lead to a controlling type personality.

(3) To seek revenge on a neglectful or abusive parent by placing harm on the partner. This can be done of a unconscious level.

(4) Going from person to person hoping one can live up to their "high expectations." Which can stem from unmet needs by our parents or guardians. They never met our expectations of love, acceptance or attention. By expecting so much in extreme from our mates, we try to gain what was missed in our lives which in part falls into a seeking redemption through them through "high expectations." I have witnessed that this form or pattern provides deepest fears and emotional pain which results in a self fulfilling pattern of failure.

(5) Just plain deception. In other words, not allowing enough time to know or provide a true foundation in friendship first. Of course, along with careful, earnest prayer in Christ.

(6) The ultimate reason above all would be lack of prayer from the beginning. Earnest prayer should be made from very start regarding everyone and every option, choice presented to you. Most would make choices without seeking approval from God or even presenting matter to Him for answers.

Otherwise, without a normal balance structure of such simple measures (especially if we already have pattern) we can pick the wrong individual and miss God's intended blessing.

By our 'free choice" we are allowed to do so but can miss the full intended blessing in this area by not trusting. Like myself in past we have allowed God to control every area of our lives except in finding a mate. When we fail to trust in the leading of the Lord, will pick the wrong person many times causing confusion which results in a failed relationship or marriage.

Psalms 71:1 (KJV)

"In thee, O LORD, do I put my trust: let me never
be put to confusion"

Psalms 37:5 (NASB)

"Commit your way to the LORD,
Trust also in Him, and He will do it "

Proverbs 3:5 (Amplified)

"Lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding."

In five years, I see myself

Recognizing and applying my spiritual gifts I have goals set to be involved in a church ministry. Furthermore return back to complete a Masters in Professional Counseling and then proceed to Doctoral degree (PHD) Psychologist.

There are many opinions and theories in ones understanding about Psychology and a Christian?

Ellen White mentions...

" The true principles of psychology are found in the Holy Scriptures"
MS, 121, 1902
(there is perfect harmony between the Bible and true science, psychology is the science and study of the mind and human behavior)

Psychologists for God are needed......its being guided by Holy Spirit, ones desire, intentions, motives coupled with what you do with it !

The doctorate will most likely be a PhD in Clinical Psychology verses the PhD in Counseling or Research. The Clinical is geared more towards helping or treating people with mental illness. In addition, this type is more accepted as a teaching degree in most major universities than PsyD.

My favorite Bible passage is...

My favorite of verse is Mark 9:24, (NASB)

"Immediately the boy's father cried out and said, "I do believe; help my unbelief."

I found this verse, where assurance, joy. peace was founded, because praying this for months my belief came solid and strong. This after desire enabled me to experience what i am today in Christ.

One final thing I'd like to mention...

EGW, Selected Messages BK 1, p. 389

" Faith is the only condition upon which justification can be obtained, and faith includes not only belief but trust"

One has to realize (like in Salvation) that they are helpless in this area and need to surrender impulse love, uncontrolled affections, passions and desires, emotions to the balance understanding and deep knowledge, wisdom of God in this area. By doing so you will develop a "peace, assurance, joy and balance of fulfilled life because you developed by free choice this conformity of character which rests totally in Christ !

This takes a realization of ones past, letting go and again surrender to God. This next step of application of faith, belief and trust must be chosen out of free will. It takes all three ! Like myself in past, many only believe and had a nominal faith that knew nothing of vital dependence upon Christ in this area of relationships. Usually the trust issue to God is because of a "fear,hurt, or lack " that is so developed growing by a environment (surroundings) or a mind set of repeated patterns of behavior. The sinful character traits not fully surrendered and overcome keep us from having the right person in our lives by God. The very things we despise or lack growing up we find ourselves attracted to by various degrees throughout life which most time do not even realize It !

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January 2014

Core Color = White*

  •   blue: 28%
  •   red: 28%
  •   white: 22%
  •   yellow: 22%

Whites Are

AcceptingAdaptable
AgreeableConsiderate
DiplomaticEasy-Going
Even-TemperedGood Listener
InventiveKind
PatientPleasant
SatisfiedTolerant

* If you have fairly equal numbers for all four categories, your core color is white.