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Introduction

Grow friendships that last a lifetime ! Expressing confidence, understanding, and uplifting to be around.

The most essential human need desired is love & connection.
For everything such as communication, compassion, commitment, compromise (in preferences not principle) will hinge on a individuals DAILY CONVERSION !

I am truly convinced one has to establish a core of true friendship by Christ alone. This is Christ in you reflecting such inexpressible comfort of belief and emotions making one feel safe in any friendship or relationship. One has to guard that infatuation is not mistaken as love. Even though it is the emotional response however you do not allow such foundation or marry on it alone. Should one follow the infatuation response, then only another high emotion will have to occur to out weigh the previous one. Even if there is chemistry between two, you always allow time for mature growth. Time is always the best along with friendship. The real truth is that many fail to truly establish the habit in this area due to infatuation or impulsive responses.

True Love once matured has an intellectual basis, a deep, thorough knowledge of the person loved.

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Basic Information

GenderMale
LocationNorth GA, GA, USA
Age43

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About Me

Height5' 9" (175 cm)
BuildAthletic
HairDark Brown
EyesBrown
Relationship StatusSingle - never been married
Children0
Children home0
SmokingNever
DrinkingNever
Religious Involvementevery week
EducationBachelor's degree
Field of WorkPROFESSIONAL
EthnicityCaucasian / White, Hispanic / Latino
Languages SpokenEnglish

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Fun Facts

Self-descriptionPatience, listener, optimist, inspiring, communicative
MusicGospel/Religious Music
Favorite bands and musiciansChristian and Non-Fiction Book Audio
MovieDocumentary, Drama, Romance
Outdoor activityBasketball, Camping/Hiking/Fishing, Running, Sports/Athletics, Tennis
Indoor activityReading, Sports, Weightlifting
FoodItalian, Vegetarian/Vegan
PoliticsOpen Minded
TimelinessI am usually on time
As for fashionI dress to be comfortable

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Match Preferences

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Essays

My past relationships have taught me...

What I learned in past is relationships will never succeed unless Christ is truly at the center of them. A true conversion will have to be continued daily (dying of self, surrender) in this area of relationships.
Many of us are guilty and still try and control this area ourselves, apart from God. When this happens we lack the "trust" and will seek even without realizing a continual search for someone which many times is driven by other factors we are challenged with in our lives.

Finding our soul mate can be a good thing if God is allowed to direct & guide (control its process) for us.

Without having surrendered this process, we can easily on purpose or naively pick the wrong person again. Most patterns for picking the wrong person are usually based on:

(1) To fill a love vacuum left by a parent
(2) To try & fix a parent's fault by fixing a partner whose traits that resemble our parent's. This usually can lead to a controlling type, perhaps type A personality?
(3) To seek revenge on a neglectful or abusive parent by placing vengeance on our partner.
(4) Going from person to person hoping one can live up to your "high expectations." These can be a result of unmet needs by our parents. They never met our expectations of love & acceptance.
(5) Just plain deception. In other words, not allowing enough time to know or provide a true foundation in friendship first. Of course, along with careful, earnest prayer in Christ.

Otherwise, without a normal balance structure of such simple measures (especially if we already have pattern) we can pick the wrong individual and miss God's intended blessing.

By our 'free choice" we are allowed to do so but can miss the full intended blessing in this area by not trusting. Like myself in past we have allowed God to control every area of our lives except in finding a mate. When we fail to trust in the leading of the Lord, will pick the wrong person many times causing a failed relationship or failed marriage and confusion.

Psalms 71:1 (KJV)

"In thee, O LORD, do I put my trust: let me never
be put to confusion"

Psalms 37:5 (NASB)

"Commit your way to the LORD,
Trust also in Him, and He will do it "

Proverbs 3:5 (Amplified)

"Lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and
mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding."

In five years, I see myself

Recognizing and applying my spiritual gifts I have goals set to be involved in a church ministry. Furthermore return back to complete a Masters in Professional Counseling and then proceed to Doctoral degree (PHD) Psychologist.

There are many opinions and theories in ones understanding about Psychology and a Christian?

Ellen White mentions...

" The true principles of psychology are found in the Holy Scriptures"
MS, 121, 1902
(there is perfect harmony between the Bible and true science, psychology is the science and study of the mind and human behavior)

Psychologists for God are needed......its being guided by Holy Spirit, ones desire, intentions, motives coupled with what you do with it !

The doctorate will most likely be a PhD in Clinical Psychology verses the PhD in Counseling or Research. The Clinical is geared more towards helping or treating people with mental illness. In addition, this type is more accepted as a teaching degree in most major universities than PsyD.

My favorite Bible passage is...

My favorite of verse is Mark 9:24, (NASB)

"Immediately the boy's father cried out and said, "I do believe; help my unbelief."

I found this verse, where assurance, joy. peace was founded, because praying this for months my belief came solid and strong. This after desire enabled me to experience what i am today in Christ.

One final thing I'd like to mention...

EGW, Selected Messages BK 1, p. 389

" Faith is the only condition upon which justification can be obtained, and faith includes not only belief but trust"

One has to realize (like in Salvation) that they are helpless in this area and need to surrender impulse love, uncontrolled affections, passions and desires, emotions to the balance understanding and deep knowledge, wisdom of God in this area. By doing so you will develop a "peace, assurance, joy and balance of fulfilled life because you developed by free choice this conformity of character which rests totally in Christ !

This takes a realization of ones past, letting go and again surrender to God. This next step of application of faith, belief and trust must be chosen out of free will. It takes all three ! Like myself in past, many only believe and had a nominal faith that knew nothing of vital dependence upon Christ in this area of relationships. Usually the trust issue to God is because of a "fear,hurt, or lack " that is so developed growing by a environment (surroundings) or a mind set of repeated patterns of behavior. The sinful character traits not fully surrendered and overcome keep us from having the right person in our lives by God. The very things we despise or lack growing up we find ourselves attracted to by various degrees throughout life which most time do not even realize It !

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January 2014

Core Color = White*

  •   blue: 28%
  •   red: 28%
  •   white: 22%
  •   yellow: 22%

Whites Are

AcceptingAdaptable
AgreeableConsiderate
DiplomaticEasy-Going
Even-TemperedGood Listener
InventiveKind
PatientPleasant
SatisfiedTolerant

* If you have fairly equal numbers for all four categories, your core color is white.