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Introduction
I was saved and baptized around the age of seven in a small Baptist church during a hot summer evening. I remember it well. That decision meant everything to me, primarily because even at that age I loved Jesus so much. However, Dad didn't like going to church. Mom did the best she could. Church attendance was sporadic and I never really studied the Bible until about thirteen years ago. I've found repeatedly from that point on that understanding God's Word DOES make a difference in one's relationship with Him- what does God say, "My people perish for lack of knowledge"? / For the last 13 years I have attended church regularly. I love worshipping with my church family, and serving the Lord in one of our praise bands. Recently, I find myself co-teaching one of our Sabbath School Bible classes- assisting one of my dearest of friends and elders in our church.
Relatedly, In January of 2011, after a life of wonderful health, I was diagnosed with cancer. I went through seven months of intermittent treatment and came out on the healthy end of it when, one week before Christmas of that year, the mother of my daughter, my beautiful God-given wife of that time, died. Though others have been through worse, my daughter and I have certainly been through a lot. Healing, as I've found, is a process, in experience and learning; and though I haven't traversed this path of grief recovery flawlessly, I think that with God's support I've done very well. What has encouraged me is that I've seen God, through and because of these trials and afflictions, glorify Himself mightily and draw so many people unto Himself (quote from Ellen White- "If we could see God's plans, the ends from the beginnings, we wouldn't change a thing."). He has also supported my daughter and me in so many ways, including giving us the most wonderful of home churches, family and friends. Because of what I've been through, and because of what God has shown me of His amazing love, I seek evermoreso now to make my life a living sacrifice for His glory.
I am praying to God to bring into my and my daughter's life, in His good timing, the right woman, and perhaps larger family, with whom we could and would serve and glorify Him greater than we could separately. Specifically, the type of woman to whom I am most attracted is one who is humble, compassionate, well-read and brainy, funny as all get-out, keeps her cool under stress, is very slow to judge or be critical of others, listens well because people matter to her, chooses her words carefully because she knows the power in them, and reminds herself daily that one of her greatest desires is to reflect the love and character of Jesus.
Having said that, I am not in a hurry to develop a relationship. I did that once, recently. It was a good learning experience, but one of those "learn the hard way" experiences, too... and I DON'T want to repeat it. So, I wanna get things right from this point on, take it slowly and give things a chance to grow in their own way. I look forward to this new path the Lord has prepared for me (and you, my rare flower who captivates my poet's heart, whoever and wherever you are)... :]
Basic Information
| Gender | Male |
| Location | Grand Rapids, MI, USA |
| Age | 49 |
About Me
| Height | 5' 10" (177 cm) |
| Build | Athletic |
| Hair | Black |
| Eyes | Brown |
| Relationship Status | Divorced |
| About Children | I have children and would welcome yours |
| Children | 1 |
| Children home | 1 |
| Smoking | Never |
| Drinking | Rarely |
| Religious Involvement | every week |
| Education | Bachelor's degree |
| Field of Work | RN |
| Ethnicity | Caucasian / White |
| Languages Spoken | English |
Fun Facts
| Self-description | working on it... |
| Music | Ambient, Blues, Folk, Pop/Top 40, Religious Music, Soft Rock, World |
| Movie | Action/Adventure, Comedy, Documentary, Drama, Foreign Films, Romance, Science Fiction |
| Outdoor activity | Camping/Hiking/Fishing, Running, Swimming, Traveling/Sightseeing |
| Indoor activity | Art, Cooking/Culinary arts, Games, Movies/TV, Music, Opera/Theater, Reading, Weightlifting |
| Food | Vegetarian/Vegan |
| Politics | Open Minded |
| Timeliness | I am usually on time |
| As for fashion | I'm a somewhat fashionable person |
Match Preferences
| Age | Between 40 and 48 years old |
| Distance | Any |
| Height | Between 5' 0" (152 cm) and 5' 6" (167 cm) |
| Body Type | Slender, Washboard, Athletic |
| Education | Associate degree, Professional degree, Some College, Bachelor's degree, Graduate Student, Master's degree, Doctoral degree |
| Relationship Status | Any |
| Religious Activity | every week |
| Smoking | Never |
| Drinking | Never, Rarely |
Essays
The most important part of a first date, to me, is that we get a sense of the other's personality, character, motivations, values, and relationship to Jesus. It also means we get to find out what kind of "chemistry" exists between us - romance, passion and all those wonderful things that come with finding one's soul-mate- VERY important and, of course, LOTS of fun! :] So, for a first date, I'd love to have dinner at a quiet, romantic restaurant, or meander along a Lake Michigan shorelilne before we sit and bury our feet in the sand and listen to the waves as get lost in the sunset, together. I wouldn't mind checking out an art exhibit, either, or even simply chatting over a mocha-caramel latte (with soy) while checking out a book store (I love the bookstore/coffee shop environment). What's most important to me is not the setting but that we get to know one another...
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1. There's always opportunity to learn and room to grow. 2. That although perfect love might not be attainable, true love is. 3. If and when you are blessed with true love, hold it intimately, enjoy it deeply, and cherish it well. Life on this fallen world is fragile...
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1. Buy a somewhat larger home for my daughter and I in which we can better entertain friends and family, primarily for the purpose of developing relationships centered around a love of and longing for Jesus. I am praying that the right house pop up on the market this Spring. 2. Become certified in case management and geriatric nursing. 3. Get our church praise band back together to glorify Jesus through music, in some of the worship services at our church. 4. Lead or co-lead a Bible study. 5. Continue to "re-shape" my daughter's and my life, which includes filling it more with loving Christian friends, time with family, and the pursuit of our interests. 5. Find the woman that is perfect for me, be married, combine our respective famiies into "our family". Then, as a family, grow in our relationship to each other and Jesus, glorifying Him mightily as a "team" and, hopefully, hastening His return...
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Which passage is my favorite in the Bible does change, as my life situation and growth as a Christian changes. At present, the passage that means most to me is Gen 1:1, "In the beginning...". It impresses upon me the fact that God has the power to do anything; and with all that power one of the things He wanted most to create for Himself was us. Wow! Putting that in context of the cross... we are SO loved! :]
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WHAT I DO FOR FUN: 1. Playing my guitar and singing in one of our church praise bands. I love to take a song and arrange it in a way that the music most expemplifies the lyrics in theme and mood. I love that creative process. / My 7-year old daughter and I both love music, in general- she wants to take piano lessons, which she will soon, and can keep rhythm remarkably well on her little bongos when listening to me play the guitar. 2. Exercising: I work out every weekday before my daughter awakes- stretching, treadmill, weights. Wish I had time for martial arts again, but simply don't. 3. Cooking! I love cooking! Thanks to dear friends from church, I learned some of the basics of Vegan cooking, and I am, in my humble estimation, going to be a Vegan-chef extraordinare! AND, as of late, my dear seven-year old daughter is delighting in cooking with me... how cool is that? :] 4. Reading, good movies. Writing! 5. Watching live performances- plays, musicals, bands. Art festivals! 6. Spending time at the beach, walking the boardwalk of Grand Haven or through the trails at Hoffmaster. 7. This summer my daughter and I plan to resume a favorite passtime of mine, when I was much younger- camping! Love being out in nature, especially with good Christian friends. Kayaking... oh yeah!!!
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