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Introduction

I am a redeemed work in progress, ISTJ, looking for spiritually compatible man who has researched courtship and chooses to prepare for marriage God's way.

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Basic Information

GenderFemale
LocationJoshua, TX, USA
Age34

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About Me

Height5' 3" (160 cm)
BuildI should maybe lose a few
HairLight Brown
EyesBrown
Relationship StatusSingle - never been married
About ChildrenI am open to all possibilities
Children1
Children home1
SmokingNever
DrinkingNever
Religious Involvementevery week
EducationSome College
Field of WorkUniversity Administrative Assistant
EthnicityAsian, Caucasian / White
Languages SpokenEnglish

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Fun Facts

Self-descriptionMusical. Artistic. Enjoy physical activity. Played sports until I got injured. Adventurous! :)
MusicClassical, Gospel/Religious Music, World
Favorite bands and musiciansShannon Wexelberg, Anonymous Four, Simple Gifts of the Northwest
MovieAction/Adventure, Documentary, Drama, Foreign Films, Musical, Western
Favorite movies and actorsMy flesh likes movies a lot. That's why I rarely watch movies except wholesome/religious films.
Favorite TV showsI gave away my TV. Sometimes I watch SDA television online, nature/creation science shows
Outdoor activityBasketball, Biking, Camping/Hiking/Fishing, Gardening, Horseback riding, Photography, Sailing, Snow Skiing/Snowboarding, Sports/Athletics, Traveling/Sightseeing, Water Skiing/Windsurfing
Indoor activityAerobics, Art, Charity/Volunteering, Cooking/Culinary arts, Crafts, Games, Music, Opera/Theater
My idea of a great tripViewing the wildflowers of the Texas Hill Country. Roughing it outdoors :) Quality time with you?
FoodAmerican, Chinese, Indian, Italian, Mexican, Vegetarian/Vegan
Favorite restaurantsI like vegetarian/vegan food from all over the world. Prefer dark green salad options!
PoliticsConservative
TimelinessI am usually on time
As for fashionI'm a somewhat fashionable person

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Match Preferences

AgeBetween 34 and 43 years old
DistanceAny
HeightBetween 5' 4" (162 cm) and 6' 4" (193 cm)
Body TypeSlender, Washboard, Athletic, Average, I should maybe lose a few, Large but muscular
EducationTechnical School, Associate degree, Professional degree, Some College, Bachelor's degree, Graduate Student, Master's degree
Relationship StatusAny
Religious Activityevery week
SmokingNever
DrinkingNever
EthnicityAsian, Caucasian / White, Hispanic / Latino, Native American, Pacific Islands, Other

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Essays

What I'd like to do on a first date...

How about joining me at Extended Sabbath School after fellowship lunch? Or go on a group hike? We could pass out literature with a team going door-to-door. I appreciate the ability to get acquainted while working for the Lord, or while thinking about godly topics in a group. I want mission-minded friends around me and a man interested in meeting me. I value how their presence keeps things Christ-centered and provides accountability. I don't really want anything more in a "first date" scenario.

My past relationships have taught me...

That I really do need a good man in my life. I welcome a man who wants to be needed, who yearns to show affection by helping in practical matters in whatever way he chooses. That's a big step forward for this independent female! I realize now how much happiness this brings a man, and receiving those precious gifts from him make me happy too. :)

I question a man's capacity to be selfless if he cannot picture himself nurturing a child that is not his flesh and bone...is that the only child that is worthy of his love?

Respect: It's worth building somebody up rather than tearing somebody down. God is growing me up and I praise Him for it.

That expressing myself emotionally is important to the man. If I don't try to listen to his emotions or affirm him or express my emotions to him, then he will struggle with getting to know me and he could begin to doubt if I truly care about him. I am a stereotypical ISTJ in this area. I like the improvements I have made, and I feel like I am more in touch with my emotions, I strive to treat others more delicately than I used to. I have a lot more to give a man this time around.

It's crucial that your spiritual mission/calling as a single person complements your future spouse's spiritual mission/calling.

The man who is truly interested in a Christ-centered marriage will pursue it and invest in it. Didn't you pursue the education you have, your career, your promotion, your leadership opportunities? So you've shown that you pursue what you truly want.

To me, being an Adventist means...

I became SDA in my early 20's. In short, I was a prodical from another denomination who came home :). I was so excited to be baptized that instead of in a baptistry I had it done outdoors in a popular swimming destination-- wearing the bright baptismal robe! :D As the years have gone by, I learned the head knowledge of scripture and doctrine, fundamental beliefs. It was not enough for me, and I began to feel discouraged with the way SDA's treated one another, a lack of familial love in the church in general. My greatest times of growth as an Adventist Christian came when I went through times of loss and tragedy and had to cling to Jesus for healing and restoration. THAT was when God's Holy Word found fertile soil. That was when I saw that Jesus connects with my story. That was when I stopped being judgemental about the unloving actions of fellow Adventists. I believe that God is calling me to connect hurting broken people with Christ-centered programs for healing and restorstion. I certainly don't have all wisdom. But if it be His Will, I can share His principles that have helped me become a whole person. I share all this here because I believe that is what it means to be Adventist. To mend broken people as tools of the Great Physician. And to first recognize our great brokenness and great need for wholeness in Christ Jesus.

Here's a thought to challenge our self-sufficiency: What else does it mean to be Adventist? Allowing Jesus Christ to stay in our way. He is our leader, isn't He? SHOULDN'T that mean that He gets to stay in our way? In what ways can Jesus seem to block our path or just move "too slowly" for our liking? Just food for thought. :) And, healing can involve binding wounds, restricting movement...bandages or cast, surgery comes to mind, removal of what is foreign and harmful from the body and mind. How do these word pictures compare with Jesus' healing work in your experience?

In five years, I see myself

Grow in Christ and in the knowledge of the Word of God!

There are many life goals, more than is practical to list here. Mostly geared in service as a mentor/facilitator/teacher in Christ-centered outreach to those hurting and seeking restoration.
I currently serve in the volunteer Chaplaincy program at the men's prison located 2 hours' drive from my current home. If it's God's plan, perhaps I will branch out to volunteer-teach at a women's prison, focusing on Christian life-readiness courses for pre-release inmates.

I have other interests relating to music ministry, the Health Message, natural medicine, single parent ministry, building community connections, ministry to all ages with disabilities, homeless/crisis center outreach, foreign mission trips. Definitely modeling the love of Jesus to my own teenager, so that in time my teen chooses Christ as a result of personal choice, not as the culture of the household.

Will my aspirations all come to pass within 5 years? Only God knows that answer. I will be very happy and thankful if I am presented with any ministry opportunities. But if I am blessed with marriage and raising more children within 5 years, I am willing to lay aside a single person's ambitions for the most important mission field of all: my home.

You are so welcome to inquire further. I would love to know where you believe you fit in the body of Christ, where your spirtual gifts might take you. I believe these discussions are important. Spiritual compatiblity is one of the biggest factors of a relationship's success. A man who takes spiritual compatibility seriously is very attractive to me.

My favorite Bible passage is...

John 15:15-16.
Jesus wants include us in his inner circle. He welcomes us to know Him and bond with Him emotionally. He does not just require allegiance and adhearance. He wants relationship!

One final thing I'd like to mention...

I am looking for courtship. Not dating. Sadly, so few men know what courtship is. If biblical courtship is what you've chosen, then you're miles ahead of the competition. If this concept is new to you, then I recommend that you watch the 2015 film "Old Fashioned." Then pray about lessons presented in the film. Another good courtship resource is the book "The Adventist Home" by Ellen G. White.

I am a busy single mom with an active teenager. It is quite a different life then that of a single adult.

I became a mother out of wedlock before I became a follower of Jesus. I will consider a divorced man on a case-by-case basis. I made the mistake of giving away my purity, but I still honored the sanctity of marriage to the point of not marrying the wrong man. And I remain faithful to my future husband all these years later. Only the man who has won my hand in marriage will know my kiss and my intimacy, and vice versa. I say this to the men who have taken the difficult journey of divorce: I do not condemn the choice of divorce. But I will be cautious and be forwarned, if we became serious about considering marriage I will contact your ex-wife as a reference. If you oppose your potential fiancee contacting your ex-wife, then please do not contact me, you and I will not be a good match.

I do appreciate your interest! I'm here mainly to see what the Lord will do. True love waits!

May God guide your search. :)

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April 2014

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