A Sabbath afternoon hike or walk out in nature, after enjoying Sabbath school, church service, and fellowship potluck. Not totally alone nor with a big crowd of people. I want to have a chance for my date and I to talk, with a friend around who gives accountability and space as needed.

(Just warning you, it's deep!) In human emotions, a wound covered is a wound unhealed. It's amazing how your unhealed relationship/emotional sores poison (seemingly unrelated) areas of your life. And it's incredible in that as Jesus reveals those covered-up sores and heals them, how so many (seemingly unrelated) areas of your life benefit!! I'm so glad I've done the hard work of getting rid of my baggage! Can you say the same thing? Do you totally identify? A guy who's doing THIS hard work in his life is miles ahead of the competition.

I've also learned that it's crucial that your spiritual mission/calling as a single complements your future spouse's spiritual mission/calling. God's ultimate goal for marriage isn't simply to "be fruitful and multiply" - rather, to carry out the Great Commission. Culture didn't teach me this. If someone hadn't taken the time to mentor me about that important point, then I may had never connected the dots. The truth is, if the Lord moves two of His children to marry, it's because He has a gospel mission(s) for them to carry out together that they couldn't accomplish apart. If you don't know without a doubt what mission work God is calling you to (local or otherwise), then what makes you think that you're ready to get married?? If you don't know what spiritual direction you're pointing toward or where you should be heading, how then can you lead your family? Your wife and your kids would be following your lead. Just food for thought!

Allowing Jesus Christ to stay in our way. He is our leader, isn't He? SHOULDN'T that mean that He gets to stay in our way? Food for thought.....!

I could say more but in short: 1 Cor. 13:1-3.......Adventists are generally known for "what they know." As an Adventist, I want to be known for more than having The Truth. I consider Scriptural Truth a heavyweight shell when it isn't filled with LOVING RELATIONSHIP. It's my prayer that the men who contact me value the principle of Relationship-Filled Biblical Truth.

--I'm actually living out the saying "I'm sold-out for Jesus Christ!" I want my relationship with the Lord to have double the richness and intimacy five years from now than what I currently experience with God. I want His Love to regularly overflow me, this simple jar of clay.

--Raise funds to go on a foreign mission trip with my teen. Either that, or raise funds to go preach at a ShareHim evangelistic series mission trip. (Why limit God to one mission trip in 5 years? If it's His Will, I'd love to do both!) I know it's miraculous what Jesus will do with a willing heart so I'll be a willing heart for Him! This is not about who's in center stage, it's ALL about Jesus.

--Complete my batchelor's degree. Use my degree to work not just to have a paycheck but to have a missionary mindset as well. (Ultimately to become a life coach if it's the Lord's desire for me.)

--Hopefully, my young teen will be well on the way to graduating from SDA Academy five years from now.

--And by then I hope to have met my best friend and future husband. I think it's obvious that I'll be living very full years ahead. So will he, probably! Marriage might be too complicated to do within the next five years, in the midst of all these other things going on. But I sure hope he and I are moving toward engagement five years from now. :D

John 15:14-16. Jesus shows me here that He sees no separation between me and Himself...as though I have to be "good enough" to have access to Him. It's out of this love and acceptance I find in my Best Friend Jesus Christ that I respect His authority in my life and have willingness to obey Him.

I apologize for any grammatical errors that display here. For example, further down there's a wink and I didn't put a wink there, and whenever I try to delete it, it's back again. (Maybe this time it will be gone!) I don't know why, but for some reason errors pop up on display even when I didn't type those in.

The rest of my bio is going to address expectations….yours and mine.

I’ve been convicted to prepare for marriage in a very counter-cultural manner. It’s different because my motive is different. How many times can people in general think back and recall mistakes they made, making choices and becoming emotionally intimate with marriage "potentials" who never became their spouse? I've been convicted as a single woman to guard against such emotional intimacy with a man who is not my spouse. My motive is to stay faithful to the man that I’m praying for, whether I’m talking to other men or not. Do you want to stay faithful to your future wife while you're getting to know other women?

With that said, I respect you so much I'm letting you know upfront where I stand. You deserve to know what to expect from me. I am on a platonic friendship basis ONLY with any man interested in me, and I believe that writing other singles should continue. It is up to the Lord to show his single children which person is to be the future spouse. In the meantime,) I will treat you the way your future wife would want me to treat you. I ask that you treat me the way my future husband would want you to treat me. If you chose to get to know me, I intend to honor your future wife by sending you information that your future wife would be comfortable reading if she was sitting beside you reading it. I request that you respect my future husband in like manner if you choose to correspond with me. This way God remains in the center of it all, and if we go our separate ways, there'll be no regrets. :)

I'm sure you want chemistry to build in the typical ways I assume? Flirting, lots of logical bantering or emotionally-connected conversations....(at least that's how chemistry happens for women.) I must disappoint you there. I would converse but from me you won't receive flirting, immodest photos, or sensual suggestions--I respect your future wife more than that. I am asking you for the same measure of respect.

If later on you want to take our platonic friendship further, you will need to make your move LOUD AND CLEAR. Specifically, don’t expect me to be a mind-reader. If you have growing feelings for me, then man-up and do something about it. Pursue an exclusive relationship with me. Otherwise my platonic view of you will not change. I won’t take you seriously unless you do this.

Take care my friend and may God bless you in your search :-)