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Introduction

Something I wrote recently, as a gift to the woman who I might meet in the future, and who would be special enough to make me choose to be married again.

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I Have Found a Woman That Makes Me Want To Be a Better Man
I wonder if she knows how truly enchanting she is. How effortlessly she inflames feelings I have endeavored to suppress. Emotions I suppressed under a mountain of icy layers, and yet she plucks them up as if they were sea shells on a beach. The radiance of her words melts the glacier encompassing my heart. She is truly an Angel in a world of Demons. Comparing her to a diamond would be an insult, for a diamonds value is inflated through manipulation. The rarest of jewels envy her sublime uniqueness. Her brilliance of her aura has me enraptured. She is truly one of a kind...perfection's zenith.

I did not want this. I was comfortable, viewing the world from my chrysalis. I enjoyed the tranquility of my island. But she is a force of nature. Does a tree have a choice to not bow in the wind? Did the Grand Canyon have a choice against the power of the river? Do the tides have the choice to resist the gravity of the moon?

So why would I resist? Why should I resist? Is it because a darker, sinister emotion accompanies the beautiful ones? Fear...cynical fear that this epiphany, this sudden revelation, is just a Mirage? Fear that my vision has been beguiled by an iridescent illusion, and will be revealed as such the moment I reach for it?
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Most important, I am kind, gentle, and very loving. I seek the same in a woman.

I want a woman who will go to church with me, pray at home with me, and put God at the center of our relationship. In this way, we make the relationship fireproof. It has a stronger foundation. This does not mean I'm perfect or expect a woman to be perfect. I am not and don't expect her to be.

Please read the book, "The 5 love languages," then determine your primary love language. After I know yours, I will tell you mine. I believe this is the #1 key to a great relationship. Everything else can be overcome if you speak the same love languages. I thank my church and pastor for introducing me to this, and wish I had known about this many years ago.


I am in great physical condition. No diseases of any sort. I've even beat the odds on genetic diseases. Why, I have no idea though, I have been very active most of my life, worked the night shift the majority of a 20 year career in the Navy which reduced exposure to the sun and even today I do 1200 crunches each morning. You need not worry about being my caretaker as I get older. Isn't likely to happen. And, I don't intend to ever fully retire. I also don't need a maid or cook. I was taught by my mother to do all of those things before my age was even two digits.

It see a husband's place as being the leader, but this does not mean "the boss" in his house. It's more subtle than that. God gave some serious instructions to husbands, mainly that he love his wife as Jesus loved the Church (People) and Jesus asked for very little from the church, and allowed the church free will, and in the end, gave his life for the church. If a man is being the kind of leader God demands that he be, there is no ordering involved. His wife will follow him because she wants to. In short, the husband will be more worried about her needs, wants and desires. A man is also supposed to be the spiritual leader of his home. To me this means setting a good Christian example for his family to follow. I don't believe being a leader is about being a boss or tyrant, and he should place a high value on his wife's advice and opinions.

I also believe that God gave women strengths that men do not have, and he gave them to her for her to help her man. This is why I say it is still a partnership. We weren't meant to be equals, we were meant to compliment each other. Where man is strong woman is weak and where woman is strong man is weak. If you use those strengths you were given to abuse your partner, I believe you break God's heart.

I tend to be very attracted to women who have healthy views on men, physical affection, love and marriage. But it seems like many women put everything ahead of true love, and then wonder why they can't find it. I'm also one of the few honest men in admitting that I really have no interest in dating women older than myself.

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Basic Information

GenderMale
LocationJacksonville, FL, USA
Age51

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About Me

Height6' 0" (182 cm)
BuildAthletic
HairBlonde
EyesHazel
Relationship StatusDivorced
About ChildrenI am open to all possibilities
Children0
Children home0
SmokingNever
DrinkingNever
Religious Involvementevery week
EducationAssociate degree
Field of Workconstruction/student
EthnicityCaucasian / White

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Fun Facts

Self-descriptionAdventerous, Affectionate, Loving, Supportive, Dependable, Faithful
Outdoor activityAutomobiles/Motorcycles, Basketball, Biking, Birdwatching, Camping/Hiking/Fishing, Gardening, Golf, Horseback riding, Running, SCUBA Diving, Sports/Athletics, Swimming, Tennis, Traveling/Sightseeing
Indoor activityCharity/Volunteering, Computers, Cooking/Culinary arts, Movies/TV, Music, Reading, Restaurants, Sports, Weightlifting
Favorite restaurantsI really don't have a favorite.
TimelinessI am usually on time

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Match Preferences

AgeBetween 38 and 49 years old
DistanceAny
HeightBetween 5' 0" (152 cm) and 6' 0" (182 cm)
Body TypeSlender, Washboard, Athletic, Average
EducationHigh School, Technical School, Associate degree, Professional degree, Some College, Bachelor's degree, Graduate Student, Master's degree, Doctoral degree
Relationship StatusAny
Religious Activityon special occasions, several times a year, once or twice a month, every week
SmokingNever
DrinkingNever, Rarely, On occasion
EthnicityAsian, Caucasian / White, Hispanic / Latino, Middle Eastern, Native American, Pacific Islands, Other

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Essays

What I'd like to do on a first date...

A first date, would not really be a first date. If all we have done is talk over the internet, the first date is really just a casual get together to see if there is a deeper interest. For both a meet and greet, or a first date, I will have attempted to learn enough about the woman to find out what she likes and what she is comfortable with, then make a decision from there. But for a first meeting, I think we would want to be able to focus on each other, and be able to talk without a lot of distractions.

For a date, something fun, something that creates good memories would be great. Anything from an Amusement park, to a Chaperoned camping and hiking trip, to a treasure hunt would be great.

My past relationships have taught me...

I now know exactly what I want, and I am not going to waste time with a person I know is not right for me. I won't overlook things that I know will make us incompatible. I have overlooked these things in the past, hoping that the person would change in the end. It doesn't work. People are who they are, so it is better to just find the right person to start with.

What I have also learned is that it doesn't really matter what education level the person has. I think women are more concerned with this than men are. What matters is if you enjoy talking to each other, being with each other. I've know women who were very educated but couldn't hold an intelligent conversation to save their life, and I've also know women with no more than a high school education who were very good at holding up their end of an intelligent conversation.

I don't mesh well with women who can't stand having their ideas challenged. I love to debate, and I can learn through debate. I have no problem with my notions being challenged, I demand the same in a woman. I view the lack of the ability to debate with humility as an irreconcilable difference. I am not a great respecter of titles. Neither was Jesus, so I think I am in good company. I judge people as an individual. I'm usually very non-judgmental though. I usually give people the benefit of the doubt in the beginning.

Finally, I have learned that if your love languages are not in sync, it will feel like a cold relationship after the honeymoon is over. If they are not in sync, both would have to be aware of it and willing to learn to speak to their partner, consistently in the love language they crave. Few people are willing.

To me, being an Adventist means...

Being an Adventist means everything to me. Without God, there is nothing. When I have rebelled I have not been happy, so I want God at the center of my life and relationship with a good woman.

In five years, I see myself

Finish my degree. I may not be smarter than you, but I can hold my own. ;) I did get my AA degree with Honors. :P

I also want to find one special woman to share God, Love and Life with.

Also, I have free travel benefits as a result of serving in the Navy for 20 years. I have seen over 40 countries, but I want to see more. Plus, having now had 3 Humanities classes, I have a better idea of what I want to see in places such as Europe and Egypt.

My favorite Bible passage is...

(Revelation 22:13) "I am the Alpha and the Omega, the first and the last, the beginning and the end."

(Ephesians 5:25) "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for it."

(John 3:16) "For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life.

(Matthew 22:37-40) "Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets."

(Deuteronomy 5:11) "Observe the sabbath day, to keep it holy, as the LORD thy God commanded thee."

One final thing I'd like to mention...

I am currently back in school to finish my degree in I.T.

OK, something I would like to say is that I can come across as intense, but I am really more of a gentle teddy bear. I love to laugh, and be silly, when I trust you. I prefer no drama, and yet I can always be a supportive shoulder to cry on, or the person that you confide in when you need to talk. I also try to follow the Biblical principle of not judging others.

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After church 8/10/13

Core Color = Red

  •   red: 51%
  •   yellow: 27%
  •   blue: 16%
  •   white: 6%

Reds Are

Action orientedAssertive
ConfidentDecisive
DeterminedDisciplined
IndependentLeaders
LogicalPragmatic
ProactiveProductive
ResponsibleTask-Dominant