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Introduction

I love Jesus, but I do recognize that many changes must be made in my life in order to feel closer to Him. Still, I trust in the Lord and shall allow him to change, to improve me as He deems proper .
So, I leave myself in His hands and continue moving forward, towards His light ... I'm a work still in progress .

I'd be glad to share with you, my inner most thoughts,my desires,my likes and dislikes once we connect .
Look,we can all write whatever we feel others want to hear about ourselves,however, at the end of the day, to truely get to know someone you have to interact . It's in communicating,spending time together that we'll discover if there's chemistry between us .
So,If you care to know me stop by, and say hi. However, I will not reply If you don't have pictures uploaded .

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Basic Information

GenderMale
Locationnassau county, NY, USA
Age50

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About Me

Height5' 9" (175 cm)
BuildAthletic
HairBald
EyesBrown
Relationship StatusSingle - never been married
About ChildrenAsk me
Children0
Children home0
SmokingNever
DrinkingNever
Religious Involvementevery week
EducationHigh School
Field of Worksales
Languages SpokenEnglish, Spanish

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Fun Facts

MusicBlues, Classical, Classic Rock, Country/Western, Dance/Disco, Hip Hop/Rap, Jazz, Oldies, Opera, Pop/Top 40, Reggae, Gospel/Religious Music, Rock n Roll, Soul/Rhythm and Blues
MovieComedy, Documentary, Mystery, Romance, Suspense/Thriller
Favorite movies and actorsgood ones
Outdoor activityBiking, Horseback riding, Running, SCUBA Diving, Snow Skiing/Snowboarding, Sunbathing, Swimming, Tennis, Traveling/Sightseeing, Water Skiing/Windsurfing
Indoor activityArt, Movies/TV, Music, Opera/Theater, Restaurants, Weightlifting
My idea of a great tripAny trip is always a good trip. ;)
FoodAmerican, Barbeque, South American, Cajun/Southern, Caribbean/Cuban, Chinese, European, Fast food, French, Greek, Indian, Italian, Japanese, Jewish/Kosher, Korean, Mediterranean, Mexican, Seafood, Southwestern, Spanish, Thai, Vegetarian/Vegan
TimelinessI am usually on time
As for fashionI'm a somewhat fashionable person

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Match Preferences

AgeBetween 38 and 60 years old
DistanceAny
HeightBetween 5' 4" (162 cm) and 5' 8" (172 cm)
Body TypeSlender, Athletic, Average
EducationAssociate degree, Professional degree, Some College, Bachelor's degree, Graduate Student, Master's degree, Doctoral degree
Relationship StatusAny
SmokingNever
DrinkingRarely, On occasion
EthnicityCaucasian / White, Hispanic / Latino, Native American, Other

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Essays

What I'd like to do on a first date...

before a first date comes a meet and greet,to see if there's chemistry.

One final thing I'd like to mention...

~A COMMITMENT TO LOVE ~

Love isn’t something discovered and sealed in an instant; rather, it’s something that develops, deepens, and strengthens through a couple’s shared experiences. The more time you spend together, the more openness you share; the more conversations you have and events you experience as a couple, the deeper in love you’ll fall. In addition to becoming one flesh through lovemaking and one spirit through shared spiritual goals, you must also become one mind through shared memories and one heart through shared joys and pain. Hence, a long life of shared experience is the very fabric of love, weaving its intertwined threads into a single brilliant pattern. Love may have a qualitative aspect, but it also has a quantitative dimension. Look at your time together as an investment: The more you deposit, the greater the returns. See it as an occasion for nurturing love from genesis to fruition and beyond. Shared experience fosters the love. Adam and Eve didn’t date for forty years before they fell in love and married. They didn’t even date for forty days and forty nights. No, their commitment came first; their love followed. When first they met, they saw that all the fundamental components were there. And because of that they committed to each other, then fell in love. This is counterintuitive, especially these days, but it’s crucial. It is commitment that makes us fall in love: commitment to daily and mundane shared experiences, domestic chores, the breakfast drill, casually holding hands in the park, advising each other about problems at work, coming to depend on each other, building a life together and jointly navigating the vicissitudes of life. Like the hooks and eyes of a woman’s dress, it’s the tiny, seemingly insignificant details of everyday life that serve to fasten a man and a woman together until they begin to feel inseparable.

This is what all the lonely singles today, who date and date searching for perfection, ultimately don’t understand. Love can’t precede commitment. Sure, you can be strongly attracted before commitment. You can be “in like.” But you aren’t yet in love. Think of it: If one of your friends told you, “I just love my job; I start next week,” wouldn’t you think it absurd? Rather, you fall in love with your job over time. As you and the job grow together and define your experience, you come to love what it has become. The same is true of sharing a life. You choose a person who seems worthy and likely, and then the two of you grow together, ever more deeply in love. If you, as a single person, are merely biding your time, waiting to fall in love before you feel ready to commit, I’d counsel you that love won’t happen until you commit. We’re so cautious today, unprepared to take a leap of faith until we have certainty. Yet as we’ve seen, certainty–monotony, predictability, sameness–can often be a recipe for disaster. It’s a husband’s certainty that his wife would never leave him, that she’s a mountain he’s already conquered, that leads him to believe he can have an affair and get away with it. “Well, my wife is totally won over,” he thinks. “My work is done here. But that stranger over there, gee, I wonder if I could get her.” That constant gap of difference, that little bit of uncertainty, is what keeps us from taking each other for granted. It may seem like a paradox, but it’s true: In the most successful relationships, uncertainty actually contributes to the security of the partners’ commitment, by pushing each to strengthen the partnership. The great secret of falling in love, I believe, is that it can be summoned. You can actually decide to fall in love with someone, and your heart will follow.
We must learn to be active in governing our passions, rather than being governed by them. Husbands come to me all the time, complaining, “I fell out of love with my wife. I’m no longer interested in my wife. She doesn’t turn me on. That’s why I’m having an affair.” I tell them, “With all due respect, sir, you’re being lazy. You can fall back in love with your wife if you want to, if you direct your heart to do so. But you don’t want to. What if an employee told you, ‘I’m sorry, but I’m no longer interested in working today’? What would you tell your children if they came home from school, propped themselves up in front of the TV for six hours, and said, ‘Homework just isn’t turning me on tonight. I don’t feel like it’? I presume you’d tell them, ‘Well, make yourself feel like it. Have some respect for yourself, and make yourself put a little effort into it. Nothing good comes easily.’”

We have it in our own power to nurture love in our hearts, if only we set our minds to it. Those who fail to see this, I believe, have lost faith in their own basic ability to grow as human beings, to change and improve. They take the easy way out, looking only for signs that their new lover echoes the old things they already know about themselves. But when the two find they’re not interested in growing together, and the magic wears off, they end up parting and wondering why love always seems to fail them. The answer? Because they failed to build it together. This is why I always say I don’t believe in love at first sight. Would you believe in the young person who, when presented with a flesh wound, decides to “become a doctor at first sight”?

In the Talmud, it is observed that an olive releases its oil only when pressed. In the same manner, lovers release their richest love after they’ve been pressed, once life’s challenging times have put them through the wringer.

Adam and Eve, it’s safe to say, had rather a life-changing experience together. When they fell from the Garden, it was as if their company were downsized, their house foreclosed, their furniture repossessed, their SUV stolen, all in the same fateful week. And yet they survived and thrived. The adversity strengthened them. Adam and Eve lived to the ripe old age of 930. I would speculate that it was after being expelled from Eden that they truly fell in love.

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