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Introduction

Good to meet you!
I am going through a transition in my life, but trying to trust God in leading me, hopefully to you!

I am not quite divorced at this point but it does not seem possible that my estranged husband and I will be able to get back together. We are probably headed for a full divorce but I was wanting to leave that for an absolute last resort. It is very sad but unfortunately something that is part of life on this earth...

I am, I must admit, a romantic at heart, and try to believe our Father in heaven has that special "someone" for everyone.

I will be willing to explain my situation in more detail as we get to know one another better.

I have two little boys who I love with all my heart, aged 6,5 and 2,5 as of today's date, which is 3/30/2014, who need a good and loving man in their lives. I got married over 11 years ago, and would not ever have left him under normal, happier circumstances, and I took my marriage vows extremely seriously, but something went horribly wrong and here I am on this site, hoping to meet my other half, my Soul mate, my "Boaz" and that I am hopefully Your "Ruth" and our relationship will blossom and thrive, and last.

I would hope that there is someone who God has in store for me that would understand the heartache I am going through because of, not only my marriage having fallen apart, and I was very sincere, honest and meant every word when I said my marriage vows, and kept true to them for over 10 years, not ever intending for them to have been broken. (I will explain more as we get to know one another better) but it is very deep and heavy on my heart that, because I wanted to be a wife (and undeniably a mother) so much, and not seeing my children and not being part of their life has just made my desire for another baby even deeper. I would have been satisfied with being the mother to my existing children, and these formative years were of utmost importance to be spending with them, but not even being allowed the contact I was granted just made my desire for another baby so deep. Would it be too much to ask if you would consider another child a possibility?? (A Baby is a sign that God feels that the world should continue). I know that the further we get into the future, the worse our world looks, but I have to trust that God will provide if He allows a new child to be welcomed into our lives. We do need to trust God in this day and age above all else...

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Basic Information

GenderFemale
LocationChattanooga, TN, USA
Age42

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About Me

Height5' 0" (152 cm)
BuildSlender
HairDark Brown
EyesBrown
Relationship StatusDivorced
About ChildrenI am open to all possibilities
Children2
Children home0
SmokingNever
DrinkingNever
Religious Involvementevery week
EducationHigh School
Field of WorkIn transision...
EthnicityCaucasian / White
Languages SpokenAfrikaans, English

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Fun Facts

Self-descriptionI keep learning more about myself every day, by the grace of God, hopefully for the better...
MusicClassical, Contemporary, Gospel/Religious Music
Favorite bands and musiciansCeltic Women;
MovieDocumentary, Drama, Musical, Romance, Science Fiction
Favorite movies and actorsThe Holiday; Must Love Dogs; Kate and Leopold, Serendipity
Indoor activityArt, Cooking/Culinary arts, Crafts, Games, Music, Reading, Restaurants
FoodAmerican, Chinese, Fast food, German, Italian, Jewish/Kosher, Mexican, Vegetarian/Vegan
Favorite restaurantsProvinos, but will gladly go anywhere as long as I may have something vegetarian...
PoliticsOpen Minded
Schools attendedHillview High, and will explain in more detail later...
TimelinessI am usually on time
As for fashionI dress to be comfortable

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Match Preferences

AgeBetween 41 and 65 years old
DistanceAny
HeightBetween 5' 0" (152 cm) and 6' 0" (182 cm)
Religious Activityonce or twice a month, every week
SmokingNever
DrinkingNever
EthnicityCaucasian / White, Hispanic / Latino

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Essays

What I'd like to do on a first date...

I will allow you to make that decision, but I prefer a less formal setting. I feel that may take some of the pressure of the first date off, as, lets face it- the "First Date" has enough pressure as it is. Not to mention all the rules there are for single people, couples and dating in general. All I want is to be allowed to get to know you, and hope we will like each other! And that we may see, with time, that we have become so important to one another that we would never want our relationship to end...

(Just adding that as stated above, I am a romantic at heart, but that does not mean that I am extravagant, that even a single red rose, a box of candy (chocolate) (and more importantly, the sincerity of the giver of the gift)- would melt any (sincere) woman's heart... (and yes~ I would share the chocolates with you)!!

I would hope that this would be the beginning of a beautiful friendship, relationship and life shared with you...

My past relationships have taught me...

God is constantly working in our lives, but there is good and bad in all of us. This is what the Great Controversy is all about... I have been striving to become a Proverbs 31 Woman, but that, I feel takes a Lifetime to achieve...

To me, being an Adventist means...

We are to be the salt of the earth, not being influenced by the world, and not allowing people's interaction (and actions that may be disappointing and even hurtful) to destroy us. Satan will use anyone he can to hurt, kill, steal and destroy our faith in God, and he is even more the winner if we allow those we hold near and dear and believe as we believe to cloud our judgment and faith in God and our fellow human beings...

1 Peter 5:8 New International Version (NIV)

8 Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.

In five years, I see myself

I need to get (hopefully) full custody of my children, and, of course, I would hope that I would be in some kind of a meaningful and lasting relationship (hopefully marriage)with someone very special (my "Boaz")...

My children are very important to me, but I would never count you to be of lesser importance if we were meant to be. I hope that this is the beginning of God's leading in my life towards another lease on life.

My favorite Bible passage is...

Romans 8:28-39 New International Version (NIV)

28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who[a] have been called according to his purpose.

38 For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,[c] neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, 39 neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Proverbs 31
Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character
10 [b]A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.

It has been and is truly my desire to only bring my husband good in his life, and not harm or hurt him (emotionally or any other way), and hope that I will somehow still be blessed with a husband who will believe this and also honor and cherish me as his wife...

Jeremiah 29:11-15 New International Version (NIV)
11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plplans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 12 Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. 13 You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. 14 I will be found by you,” declares the Lord, “and will bring you back from captivity.[a] I will gather you from all the nations and places where I have banished you,” declares the Lord, “and will bring you back to the place from which I carried you into exile.”

I truly need to believe God will give me beauty for the ashes of my life and I need to (yearn to) trust that He has me in the palm of His Loving hand and will see me through this nightmare I am forced to be dealing with.

Song of Songs 8:6-7 New International Version (NIV)
6 Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, its jealousy[a] unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame.[b]

7 Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot sweep it away. If one were to give all the wealth of one’s house for love, it[c] would be utterly scorned.

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