Last Login: Jun 14, 2013

Introduction

What does someone write here in hopes of letting people know who they are... I have been struggling with this and have decided to give this a different approach.

I'm the kind of guy that prefers smaller groups of people to crowds, the guy who will listen to you and quietly wait to voice my opinions (at least until I know you, and you aren't walking over me). I am quiet, shy, and am not as secure in my social skills as I should be (just being honest). I care about everyone's opinion and always try to think about how my words will affect the other person. Often I think about what I would feel if I were the other person, and sometimes I remember the mistakes I have made. God has forgiven me, but I still hold on to my mistakes not because I still feel guilty, but because I want to remember the lesson I am to learn from them.

At times I am very emotional. At times I have cried, but generally not in front of others - I get quiet and hold it in. My heart goes out to kids especially. Awhile back, someone forwarded me an article about a child who was horribly abused. I just couldn't bear to read it because it tore me up. My daughter has my heart and always will. I am so proud of her, and hold her tight every chance I get, because one day she may not want me to carry her or fall asleep on my shoulder. I would trade every dollar I have to spend more time with those I love.

With relationships, well I have never dated more than one woman in a year. I get attached pretty easily, and ask for what I deem little in return - to be loved and appreciated in return. I am always honest, never cheat, and am not going to notice other women. I have no desire to watch a bikini contest when I have a woman who loves me by my side, or two hours away. I may not think of bungee jumping for spontaneity, but intimate moments, flowers, home cooked candlelight dinner and a movie, a trip to the park... those are my thoughts on quality time. I would love to take trips and experience new places together. When I feel loved, my confidence abounds and I have no fears (I turn into a huge optimist) - Love conquers all fears. My relationship with God is strongest when I am in a healthy relationship - I see Jesus' example in marriage and all relationships. A good example would be seeing an older couple at church, the wife resting her head on her husband's shoulder - it is moving, heartwarming, and exactly what I want in old age. Marriage (and all relationships) are tools God uses to help us learn his character. In marriage, you learn to compromise, to have a unified "we" (parallel to the holy trinity), to love unconditionally, allow yourself to be vulnerable, learn trust and faith in another and the desire to share your happiness with others.

Work - When my personal life suffers, when I am single, I work more and drown myself in it. The last thing I want to do is think about the part of life that isn't working. When my personal life is going well, my work benefits from added confidence, zeal, and drive - That's when I find my "A" game. Work comes second when I'm in a relationship, and second to my daughter. For the most part, I get to choose when to travel and sometimes where. My work is usually pretty flexible.

Friendships - I haven't kept many, and this goes back to childhood even. I am thirty years old and the longest standing friendship I have is about six years old. I would rather have a few close friends than many distant relationships. The only exception to this is my church family - I care for them all.

Things that do NOT interest me - Bars, Clubs, Marathons, Sky Diving, Water Skiing, Casual Dating.

Things that DO interest me - Relationships and spiritual growth, Sight seeing and travel, Companionship, Horseback riding (a newly conquered fear too), Caving (new-found), Singing in church (not yet brave enough for a solo, but groups are great), piano (I am self-teaching), helping others, movies, music (no obnoxiously loud concerts or venues with adults acting like children), going to the Theatre Opera and Symphony, sharing a devotional, parks, cooking, card games (not so much poker though), most family games in general, and anything that creates lasting good memories.

If I were reading through profiles, that's the kind of stuff I want to know. The specifics, well you'll pick those up along the way. I just want to know a person's character and know what they are made of. Everything else will fall into place.