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I'm happy to be me! :) I hold an Associate's Degree, and I'm in school now at Stanislaus State University for a major in Psychology with an interest in Biology. I'm also a deaconess at one of the churches in Modesto that I attend every Sabbath. I'm raising my daughter on my own and sharing my son with his father and stepmother. My family wants me to finish school as much as I want to, so they help support me. I'm looking for someone who does not eat meat (I am vegetarian), but who loves Ellen White's writings and is active in ministry and leadership in the Seventh-Day Adventist Church. I love doing anything fun with my friends and children. I'm always reading something current.
I don't agree with things like drug abuse and homosexuality, but I don't judge people for it because it's no human's right to judge. I do however believe in the importance of the welfare state and a woman's right to choose. If I'm a liberal for that, then so be it.
I don't believe any one of us can earn a marriage partner, but that a wife is a gift from God. I don't feel the need to try so hard to be perfect when I look around and see my friends who are so totally imperfect, but they're still married (and their marriages aren't on the rocks either). They forgive each other for being human, but what's even more important is that they actually try and help each other. Those are some really important things that make a marriage work. They're not tearing each other down for their mistakes, they're just working on themselves.
|Location||Modesto, CA, USA|
|Height||5' 5" (165 cm)|
|Relationship Status||Single - never been married|
|About Children||I have children and would like more|
|Religious Involvement||every week|
|Field of Work||Student|
|Ethnicity||Caucasian / White|
|Self-description||I love to give people the benefit of the doubt. I'm sweet, honest and a great cook.|
|Favorite bands and musicians||Francesca Battistelli|
|Movie||Action/Adventure, Comedy, Drama, Mystery, Romance, Suspense/Thriller|
|Favorite movies and actors||ASchu, JLaw, Katheryn Winnick, Lana Parrilla|
|Favorite TV shows||Once Upon a Time, Vikings, YouTube: Pastor Jon Henderson "Love, Sex and Marriage"|
|Outdoor activity||Camping/Hiking/Fishing, Gardening, Horseback riding, Snow Skiing/Snowboarding, Surfing, Swimming, Traveling/Sightseeing|
|Indoor activity||Art, Cars, Charity/Volunteering, Cooking/Culinary arts, Crafts, Movies/TV, Music, Opera/Theater, Reading, Restaurants|
|My idea of a great trip||Movies, trips to the beach|
|Food||Barbeque, Cajun/Southern, Chinese, Indian, Italian, Mexican, Southwestern, Spanish, Thai, Vegetarian/Vegan|
|Schools attended||Modesto Junior College, CSU Stanislaus|
|Timeliness||I am usually on time|
|As for fashion||I'm a very trendy person|
|Age||Between 34 and 44 years old|
|Distance||Within 100 miles of Modesto, CA, USA|
|Height||Between 5' 5" (165 cm) and 6' 6" (198 cm)|
|Body Type||Slender, Washboard, Athletic, Average|
|Education||High School, Technical School, Associate degree, Professional degree, Some College, Bachelor's degree, Graduate Student, Master's degree, Doctoral degree|
|Religious Activity||every week|
|Ethnicity||Caucasian / White, Native American|
Anything as long as it's with a nice person.
If a woman has to continually go over the top to impress a man just to get him to stick around, then how will they ever stay together? I don't think they will... Just a thought.
I hear that men want to be impressed, but what I know from looking around me is that men don't love their wives until they're both dead because they're impressed. My grandparents are 85 (step grandma) and 92 (grandpa) and they've still stayed together for longer than I've been alive even though they often don't impress each other. My friends that are married are frequently unimpressed by each other, but that isn't reason for them to leave each other.
So why am I hearing so much about how men want to be so impressed by a woman if they're considering a relationship with her? Are they thinking that will always be what a relationship is based on? Are they thinking she will sustain those expectations for life? I actually don't think these are healthy expectations and I don't think they follow Christ's model of love either. I don't think God wants us to love within relationships on those kinds of conditions. If a person is cheating or abusive, then those are conditions to leave them or separate on, but if not, then there really aren't any other reasons. If you're with a person who loves God, then you're with a person who is continually committed to improving themselves, and that should be impressive enough.
"1. Long distance makes good communication a must. We learned how to communicate and how to ask interesting questions because all we had was a verbal connection. We didn’t have facial expression or body language as cues to help us understand each other, which meant figuring out how to ask for clarification when we didn’t understand something and made a shared sense of humor an important quality. Now that we are living in the same city, we have discovered the benefit of having built a strong foundation early on." - Boundless.org article on long distance dating
Past relationships have taught me: 1. A man who checks out everytime there is a challenging conversation doesn't really want a relationship, and there's no point in trying with him. 2. When someone is taking care of their own sexual needs they don't have much desire for marriage or working things out. 3. To stay true to my values because I'm not going to give them up in the end anyway. 4. That humans are not reliable and are mostly wrong, but God always knows what is best and He is always right. I've tried dating outside the church for lack of decent local Seventh Day Adventist men, so I completely understand why God tells us not to be unequally yoked. So here I am trying to do things right this time by looking in a better spot for a relationship.
Believing in the Bible and Ellen White's writings and doing as God has told us to do in his works.
Considering that this is a dating website, I hope we can keep in mind what Sister Ellen White enlightened us of:
"To trifle with hearts is a crime of no small magnitude in the sight of a holy God. And yet some will show preference for young ladies and call out their affections, and then go their way and forget all about the words they have spoken and their effect. A new face attracts them, and they repeat the same words, devote to another the same attentions.
This disposition will reveal itself in the married life. The marriage relation does not always make the fickle mind firm, the wavering steadfast and true to principle. They tire of constancy, and unholy thoughts will manifest themselves in unholy actions?
The women in this age, both married and unmarried, too frequently do not maintain the reserve that is necessary. They encourage the attentions of single and married men, and those who are weak in moral power will be ensnared. Thoughts are awakened that would not have been if woman had kept her place in all modesty and sobriety.
By being circumspect, reserved, taking no liberties, receiving no unwarrantable attentions, but preserving a high moral tone and becoming dignity, much evil might be avoided.
Women are too often tempters. On one pretense or another they engage the attention of men, married or unmarried, and lead them on till they transgress the law of God, till their usefulness is ruined, and their souls are in jeopardy.
Shall not the women professing the truth keep strict guard over themselves, lest the least encouragement be given to unwarrantable familiarity? They may close many a door of temptation if they will observe at all times strict reserve and propriety of deportment." - Ellen G. White on Trifling with Hearts in Letters to Young Lovers, p. 74 online
My values: I highly value being a vegetarian as it has served me well all of my life. I am now learning to be vegan. I do believe in and accept everything Ellen White has to say in her writings as divine inspiration from God, although I do not hold anything she has written above the Bible. That does mean I do realize that women should be submissive (as I am naturally), but not to a man's debased, perverse requests/demands/desires. I've taken Abnormal Psych ("The lack of desire for sex outside of marriage or for any religious reason is not and never was psychologically abnormal." - Psychology Professor Lee Kooler, Abnormal Psych, Fall of 2015, Modesto Junior College). As God-fearing Christians, we should have a good attitude towards learning. So for my own self-study, I have read the 5 Love Languages and am learning to reconcile the physical aspect of love within dating without premarital sex.
Within the next 5 years I will graduate with another degree and begin working at a better paying job. I would also like to get married and have one more child.
I never have favorites. When I get into the Bible, I love all of it and I find it hard to put God's word down.
"My question, what if you find out before marriage that she is good? But you fail to prioritize other essentials that reveal your compatibility?
See, the problem with the "test drive the car" mentality is the same problem that launches marriages into divorce. The problem is that they rush in and prioritize something that should be spared instead of focusing on the true aspects of marital compatibility.
I'll step back into the car analogy real quick. They fall in love with the stereo and not the whole car. But if you neglect to consider all aspects of the car then you may realize, after you've bought it, that there are other things you don't like about it. Then eventually you may not want to drive the car... and if you don't drive the car, then you won't be listening to that beloved stereo much. K, now I'm stepping out of the car analogy."