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I'm happy to be me! :) I hold an Associate's Degree, am in school now, and have been accepted to Stanislaus State University for a major in Psychology with an interest in Biology. I'm also a deaconess at one of the churches in Modesto that I attend every Sabbath. I'm raising my daughter on my own and sharing my son with his father and stepmother. My family wants me to finish school as much as I want to, so they help support me while I'm also working more as I see the benefits increase. I'm looking for someone who does not eat meat (I am vegetarian), but who loves Ellen White's writings and is active in ministry and leadership in the Seventh-Day Adventist Church. I love doing anything fun with my friends and children. I'm always reading something current. I'm very ready to settle down sooner rather than later, even if that means marrying someone who's not SDA. I'd rather set an example for someone who wants to be with me than wait around for someone who's fine with pleasing themselves sexually outside of marriage. The Bible doesn't just tell us to be unequally yoked, it also tells us that a man who can't wait sexually for marriage if it's a long way off should be married sooner rather than later. In that paragraph it doesn't say anything else on the subject. I see too many SDA men that have let me know in no uncertain terms that they are fine with taking care of their own needs and would rather wait for "the right woman to come along" even while in the same conversation they're telling me they believe I may be the right woman for them. I see where the Bible tells us that's being unfaithful to God though, and it still doesn't mean I need to give in to anyone's demands.


Basic Information

LocationModesto, CA, USA


About Me

Height5' 5" (165 cm)
Relationship StatusSingle - never been married
About ChildrenI am open to all possibilities
Children home2
Religious Involvementevery week
EducationAssociate degree
Field of WorkHealthcare
EthnicityCaucasian / White
Languages SpokenEnglish


Fun Facts

Self-descriptionI love to give people the benefit of the doubt. I'm sweet, honest and a great cook.
MusicGospel/Religious Music
Favorite bands and musiciansFrancesca Battistelli
MovieAction/Adventure, Comedy, Drama, Mystery, Romance, Suspense/Thriller
Favorite movies and actorsASchu, JLaw, Katheryn Winnick, Lana Parrilla
Favorite TV showsOnce Upon a Time, Vikings, YouTube: Pastor Jon Henderson "Love, Sex and Marriage"
Outdoor activityCamping/Hiking/Fishing, Gardening, Horseback riding, Snow Skiing/Snowboarding, Surfing, Swimming, Traveling/Sightseeing
Indoor activityArt, Cars, Charity/Volunteering, Cooking/Culinary arts, Crafts, Movies/TV, Music, Opera/Theater, Reading, Restaurants
My idea of a great tripMovies, trips to the beach
FoodBarbeque, Cajun/Southern, Chinese, Indian, Italian, Mexican, Southwestern, Spanish, Thai, Vegetarian/Vegan
Schools attendedModesto Junior College, CSU Stanislaus
TimelinessI am usually on time
As for fashionI'm a very trendy person


Match Preferences

AgeBetween 31 and 40 years old
DistanceWithin 100 miles of Modesto, CA, USA
HeightBetween 5' 5" (165 cm) and 6' 6" (198 cm)
Body TypeSlender, Washboard, Athletic, Average
EducationHigh School, Technical School, Associate degree, Professional degree, Some College, Bachelor's degree, Graduate Student, Master's degree, Doctoral degree
Religious Activityevery week
DrinkingNever, Rarely
EthnicityCaucasian / White, Native American



What I'd like to do on a first date...

Anything as long as it's with a nice person.

My past relationships have taught me...

Past relationships have taught me: 1. A man who checks out everytime there is a challenging conversation doesn't really want a relationship and there's no point in trying with him. 2. When someone is taking care of their own sexual needs they don't have much desire for marriage or working things out. 3. To stay true to my values because I'm not going to give them up in the end anyway. 4. That humans are not reliable and are mostly wrong, but God always knows what is best and He is always right. I've tried dating outside the church for lack of decent local Seventh Day Adventist men, so I completely understand why God tells us not to be unequally yoked. So here I am trying to do things right this time by looking in a better spot for a relationship.

To me, being an Adventist means...

Believing in the Bible and Ellen White's writings and doing as God has told us to do in his works.
My values: I highly value being a vegetarian as it has served me well all of my life. I am now learning to be vegan. I do believe in and accept everything Ellen White has to say in her writings as divine inspiration from God, although I do not hold anything she has written above the Bible. That does mean I do realize that women should be submissive (as I am naturally), but not to a man's debased, perverse requests/demands/desires. I've taken Abnormal Psych ("The lack of desire for sex outside of marriage or for any religious reason is not and never was psychologically abnormal." - Psychology Professor Lee Kooler, Abnormal Psych, Fall of 2015, Modesto Junior College). As God-fearing Christians, we should have a good attitude towards learning. So for my own self-study, I have read the 5 Love Languages and am learning to reconcile the physical aspect of love within dating without premarital sex.

In five years, I see myself

Within the next 5 years I will graduate with another degree and begin working at a better paying job. I would also like to get married and have one more child.

My favorite Bible passage is...

I never have favorites. When I get into the Bible, I love all of it and I find it hard to put God's word down.

One final thing I'd like to mention...

"My question, what if you find out before marriage that she is good? But you fail to prioritize other essentials that reveal your compatibility?

See, the problem with the "test drive the car" mentality is the same problem that launches marriages into divorce. The problem is that they rush in and prioritize something that should be spared instead of focusing on the true aspects of marital compatibility.

I'll step back into the car analogy real quick. They fall in love with the stereo and not the whole car. But if you neglect to consider all aspects of the car then you may realize, after you've bought it, that there are other things you don't like about it. Then eventually you may not want to drive the car... and if you don't drive the car, then you won't be listening to that beloved stereo much. K, now I'm stepping out of the car analogy."

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